clock November 26, 2012
author Chris Sopa

Kick Me

Do you ever feel as if you must be walking around with a “kick me” sign on your back?  A BIG sign…like, one so big the Universe even sees it and says “ok, no problem!”  When this imaginary sign is on your back, nothing in your world goes right.  No matter what you do or say, ouch, another kick in the behind.

I spent the holiday week with a “kick me” sign on my back.  I have to say that I am pretty sure this past week was the worst week of my life, even worse than the one when my Dad crossed over.  There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to look in the mirror and see a shadow…that one thing you know has been there, lurking right in front of you, but you haven’t had the courage to do anything about it.  But now you know it’s time. Who said courage was easy anyway?  This past week I found my courage…but it broke my heart.

We all make mistakes.  Mistakes are how we learn our lessons.  Some mistakes affect only us, but some affect those around us as well.  Those are the ones that are the hardest.  Hardest for those who realize they made the mistake and hurt others and hard for those in the sidelines who watch and are affected and hurt by that mistake.

When we are faced with doing something that is hard, we lose our breath, can’t focus on anything, have a sudden urge to run away from it all and either want to be totally alone or around a ton of people so we do not have to face what we are certain will come up if we are left alone.  The movie, “A League of Their Own,” with Tom Hanks has a classic line I sometimes repeat to myself when life gets tough:  “If it were easy, everyone would do it.  The hard is what makes it great!”  This line reminds me that it is the hard times in our lives that make us who we are.  Those who we look up to and admire because of who they are or the life they have, have that kind of life because they made choices (hard choices) others may not have had the courage to make.

Courage is not acting without fear; it is acting in spite of fear.  When you feel lost inside because of something that has happened to you or someone you love, there is one thing and one thing only that is the cure to feeling better:  YOU.  Life is made up of hard choices and painful events.  It is not what happens to us that makes us, it is the choices we make after that “something” happens that build us into who we will become.  Tragedies, death, poor choices made by the ones we love dearly, financial hardships…all of these things are enough to break a normal human.  But, you are not just human.  You are a divine spiritual being having a human experience.  That means you are more than the physical body you can touch and the feelings you are currently feeling.  You are an essence that never dies, feeds off of joy and loves unconditionally.  Never underestimate your true divine nature.  We are all small pieces of God on earth playing a role to help move humanity forward.  No one said it would be easy.  You cannot take away other peoples lessons just to spare them pain.  Your path is the only path you can walk.  Don’t try to live your life and everyone else’s at the same time…trust me, it will only exhaust you.  Live your life the best you can and remember to take one day at a time, breathe, choose those who surround you wisely, feed your mind and body positive, nourishing “food,” and practice trust.  Trust that you knew what you were doing when you came here and trust that God has your back.

I’ll pray for you if you pray for me?


Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .


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