Self-Limiting Illusions

The next time that a piece of your life breaks off and falls away, try to remember that what is Real cannot be lost, and then give thanks that what is false must always prove itself so.” ~Rev. Angela Peregoff

Illusion #1:  It is better for me to live with a presently known problem than it is to face a future filled with unknown possibilities. 

Illusion #2:  I am useless and insignificant in life.

Illusion #3:  What others think of me is more important than what I think of myself.

Illusion #4:  It is possible to succeed in life without having to learn through mistakes and failures.

Illusion #5:  By reliving past, painful moments I will somehow be able to resolve them.

Illusion #6:  In order to succeed, I must stay with what I know is possible so as not to suffer disappointment.

Illusion #7:  I must be like everyone else (the “tribe”) in order to survive, fit in and be accepted.

Illusion #8:  I only believe what I can see and can prove exists.

Illusion #9:  If I do not remember it, it must not have happened.

Illusion #10:  What I think, say and do does not matter.

Maybe, one day, you will wake up and know that even your very thoughts matter; that events that you do not remember consciously, such as being born, choosing your parents and choosing the lessons you wanted to learn in this lifetime, actually did happen; that the most “real” things in this life cannot be touched, smelled, seen or tasted but are felt with the heart and soul; that your uniqueness, your un-likeness of everyone else around you, is the exact reason why you are here; that unless you venture into the unknown, the “impossible,” you will never know what you are capable of; that your mind does not know the difference between what is real and what is not real – it believes what is real is where you put your attention, so reliving past events makes them feel real again; that what you call mistakes and failures are the very moments for which you came to this Earth – they are the lessons in your “school”; that the only person who you should be seeking out acceptance from is yourself; that just being alive means you are significant – God wastes nothing and has a grand purpose for everything; and that your true power, the beauty of life and miracles, lie in those unknown moments.

Now that would be a hell of a day… 😉

Life is not what you see, but what you’ve projected.  It’s not what you’ve felt, but what you’ve decided.  It’s not what you’ve experienced, but how you’ve remembered it.  It’s not what you’ve forged, but what you’ve allowed.  It’s not who’s appeared, but who you’ve summoned.  And it’s not where you’ve been, but where you are going.”

~Notes from “the Universe”

Onward to ascension,

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OMG…A Letter from Tom Cruise!

I am in the midst of packing for a cross country move and as you know when you move, you end up going through boxes and boxes of things you totally forgot you owned.  My ex-husband recently found a box of mine in the attic of our old house that contained all of my memorabilia from elementary school, high school and college.  It is amazing to me the things I forgot I did and had!  Autographed letters from Danielle Steele, Walter Farley (author of The Black Stallion books) and Tom Cruise!  My high school year book that has Halle Barry’s senior photo in it (we went to the same high school), awards I forgot I won, cards my aunt sent to me while I was in college, pictures of when I went to see Menudo in concert in Cleveland when Ricky Martin was 15 years old and my all time favorite…an autograph book that had personal written messages from family members and friends.  I sat on my couch and cried tears of joy and sadness as I had a mini “life review,” not being able to believe how fast time goes and how much we change.

I couldn’t help but also remember sad and painful times I had while growing up.  We have mixed memories…some that no longer have an emotional charge to them and some that still sting.  Drama and chaos are part of how we learn our life lessons.  People come in and out of our lives every day.  They offer us circumstances with which we can use as learning experiences to learn what we have come here to learn.  Sometimes we change…sometimes we don’t.  We cannot go back and change the past but we can change how we view the past.  Is it a learning experience that is helping us grow to be a better person or a bitter experience that we allow to fester and keeps us in anger?

I have found that when we allow ourselves to be with what is in the moment, whether that be anger or joy, and letting it come up to be released is where our salvation lives.  We are human and with being human comes imperfection.  Mistakes are our vehicle to making us a better person…if we so choose.

Allow yourself today to be with what is presented to you, no matter what that may be.  You will have good days and bad days and your best will be different every day.  Allow yourself to just be the YOU that you are today…no judgments, no criticisms and no unrealistic expectations.  If you are angry, let yourself be angry.  If you are joyful, let yourself be in joy.

I wanted to leave you with an excerpt from one of my favorite blogs from Rev. Angela Peregoff’s “Morning Blessings.”  This was what came through this morning:

When you embrace the everyday dramas, you move much more quickly to the spiritual places you want to be. The mundane, and the chaotic scenes can be painful but we, your angel guides, say to you now that pain and discomfort are all part of walking on Earth. Embracing what is in front of you does not mean that you will keep it. You just have to accept it in the moment. Embracing the experience allows you to keep walking. Only by living your limited, mundane, chaotic, ordinary life is the limitlessness allowed to flow through you. We remind you that all acts of creation not only express the self, but reciprocally allow the self to know itself. Every drama you create, or join in, either consciously or unconsciously, reflects who you’ve chosen to be at that moment. And everything you create allows you to know yourself both intimately and ideally. For today endeavor to shed some heart-light, without judgment, on your tendency to use drama as a medium for those seemingly disparate stages of your evolutionary journey.  And from that pristine summit of higher-awareness you may ponder on where one was prior to this elevation and reflect on the bigger picture that is your awe-inspiring nature!

Allowing myself to be me,



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