The Purpose of Pain

Until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing, you will stay the same.”

The pain was unbearable.  It didn’t seem to matter which way I moved to try to get some relief, it persisted and was gut wrenching.  I had it for going on 5 days and no one knew what was wrong with me.  Lower left abdomen pain that sent a burning sensation down my left leg could not be diagnosed with any of the fancy equipment hospitals have at their disposal.  A laparoscopy from my GYN was the only answer.  “I have to get in there and see what is going on” was all she said.  A burst ovarian cyst and a bad ovary was the presumed diagnosis so she was ready to remove my ovary if needed.  But my body had a different plan.  Once the scope found the source of the pain it was as if my body had played a cruel joke on everyone.   Situs inversus, a congenital condition in which the major visceral organs are reversed, was the culprit, placing my appendix on the left side of my body.  An already septic and leaking appendix was removed and my pain was gone.

My appendix was the first thing that popped into my mind when I first started having pain, but my brain talked me out of that answer.  Your appendix is on the right side of your body, not the left so why would it be my appendix?  Things aren’t always what they seem.

Physical pain has a purpose.  It points us to a part of our body that needs healing.  The pain tells us that it needs attention.  Something needs to be changed to bring our body back into balance.  Emotional pain has the same purpose.  The pain we feel, which can come in the form of resistance, defensiveness, anger, sadness, etc., points to a place that needs our attention; that needs healing.  Sometimes the place in which the pain points is the only the door that leads you to where the real pain finds its true home.

Yesterday’s blog on what men should know about women brought up  pain for some people.  Although written in tongue and cheek on purpose, it may have brought up some emotions.  Where did you get angry, defensive or upset?  Which one brought up “pain” in you?  Agreeing with the list was not the purpose.  We all have a different “list” and want different things based on our experiences.  The purpose was to get you thinking about your list.  What do you want in a mate?  What pain do you have around relationships that may still need some healing so you can have a beautiful relationship with someone?

Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason: every person you meet, every painful event, every happy event, everything! Everything you experience is a chance for you to get closer to God—a chance to learn something new about yourself and how you function in the world around you. Learn to see pain as a blessing – a red flag showing you where you need to change or release something you no longer need in your life. Engage the lessons life is trying to teach you. Look at your life … where is the pain and what is it asking you to look at or change?

The most beautiful part of pain is that when you learn your lesson, the pain goes away. The worst part is that if you choose not to learn the lesson when the pain arrives, it will come back. And because you did not listen or may not have been ready the first time, the pain increases each go around … and keeps increasing until you finally learn the lesson. How else can your attention be grabbed if not through pain? Think about the greatest lessons you have learned in your life so far—the ones that have stuck with you and changed you forever. I’m willing to bet you suffered some kind of pain to learn that lesson so hard.

The best way to deal with pain is when it comes up to let it come up, terror and all.  Take a breath, close your eyes and allow yourself to feel what is coming up with no judgments.  You are safe.  Nothing can hurt you.  Your mind plays tricks on you because your lower self does not want you to evolve.  It wants you to stay small.  Your higher self knows better.  It is the one calling the pain up to be released so you can be free.  Talk to a trusted friend, do something that makes you feel good, and let it go.

Surrender to what is. Be where you are in mind, body and spirit and say yes to life—pain and all!  Then, life will work for you and not against you. It is always much easier to go with the flow of energy than against it. Remember, no matter how bad life seems today, we always get a second chance tomorrow.

“Sometimes it is that which shatters us that liberates us.” ~ Marianne Williamson

Peeling back the layers of pain,


Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .