Choosing the Life You Were Born to Live-Available for Purchase


Choosing the Life you Were Born to Live by Chris Sopa published by Balboa Press is now available!  Click here to purchase your copy!

Once you become aware of a thought that is limiting you in one way or another, you then have the power to change it.

The thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us create our reality.  That reality is the matrix in which we make choices that affect our life and our level of joy every day.  Through her compelling personal stories, humor and the vulnerable nature in which she shares pieces of her own life, Christine Sopa guides you on a journey of self-discovery where you will learn to use the power of your thoughts to achieve joy in an ever changing world.

All of us have come to a point in our lives where we know we can look back but never go back.  At this point, it is imperative to be able to see the bigger picture of your life, to understand that you deserve and have the power to create the world around you as you want it to be and that guidance is available to all of us every step of the way.  All we have to do is learn how to listen.

On this journey of self-exploration, you will learn to understand what barriers keep you from overcoming your deepest fears, how to use your emotions as a guide in making choices and finally understand why you do and don’t make the choices you do in your life.

“Choosing the Life You Were Born to Live” gives away the secret to believing in yourself, how to make choices that will honor your highest path in life and why life shows up the way it does.  If you are ready to transform your life once and for all, then this is the journey for you!  Click here to purchase your copy!

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Who Are You?

Close your eyes and take a deep breath.  Remember back to when you were five years old.  What did you want to be when you grew up?  At five years old, you had no mental limitations.  No wounds.  No thoughts of why you couldn’t become what you wanted to become.  Then it happened…you grew up and got older.  With that came disappointments and heartache, and you slowly forgot your dreams.

Why do you believe what you do?  Have you ever taken an inventory of what you believe and asked yourself, “Is that mine?”  Many of our beliefs are not even ours.  They are hand-me-downs from our parents, society, friends and religion.  Isn’t it time to clean house and decide what it is you believe?  If not now, when?

Your beliefs are the very things that keep you from becoming what you are meant to become…from living your dreams.  The only thing in the way of you is you.  Your thoughts dictate your feelings and your feelings dictate your actions.  Those hurtful thoughts you keep reliving in your mind, they are only thoughts.  The event is over.  The more you put your attention on a thought the more your amazing subconscious mind thinks it is real…it thinks it is happening again!  It does not know any better.  You are its master.  It lives out the orders you give it.  The orders are your beliefs and your thoughts.

Take a few moments and write down the ideal life you want to live.  Stop worrying how it could possibly come to pass.  The Universe takes care of that one.  Just write it down and don’t hold back.  Go wild and describe in detail your perfect mate, your perfect job, the perfect place you want to live, how your perfect body looks…what is your perfection?

I have my coaching clients do something called “journaling from the end.”  Take a situation in your life that you would like to change, think of the ideal way you would like it to turn out and write about that scenario as if it has already come to pass.  Writing it down makes it happen…it gives your dreams power by passing the information through the act of writing to the subconscious mind.  (A great book on this is “Write it Down, Make it Happen:  Knowing What You Want and Getting it,” by Henriette Anne Klauser.)

Answer the question, “Who am I?”  That’s a hard one but I know you can do it.  Starting today, create the life you want to live.  Claim it on paper then bring it to pass in your world.  Life is not a process of discovery…it is a process of creation.  Create one worthy of you and your greatness.

I am….


Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .

Lose Balance=Lose Power

No matter how far you have gone wrong, you can always turn around.

Balance is a myth.  Yes, you heard me correctly.  It is a myth…at least a myth in the way you think of balance.  Most believe balance is an even 50/50 split of work and home life.  Last time I checked, there were many other things that made up a person’s life besides home and work; social activities, spirituality, physical and mental health, etc.  If you are doing one thing and thinking you should be doing another thing…that is a sure sign you are “out of balance.”

There are many reasons why we lose balance in our lives.  Too much on our plates, doing what others think we should do rather than what we want to do, letting negative thoughts about the “what ifs” take you over…but the number one reason we lose balance is because we have lost power to something or someone.  Losing power equates to a loss in feeling good.  When you feel any one of a number of “bad” feelings, somewhere you have lost power.  Power can be lost to a person, a thing, a place, or a thought.  The good news is that once you are aware that you have lost power you can call it back by regaining the balance in your life.

How do you regain balance?  If that isn’t the golden question, I don’t know what is!  Balance comes back into alignment when you identify what is important in your life at this moment (your priorities) and you spend your time and energy doing those things.  We lose balance when we are spending our time on things that we do not feel are important to us at the moment…necessary maybe, but not “important.”  Let me define “important” here; important equates to a thing or a person you feel is worthy of your time that when you give your energy to, it makes you feel fulfilled and satisfied inside.

What is important to you today may not be as important to you in a month.  Things and people change.  You change.  Change is the only constant we have in life.  Get used to it.  Every month revisit the priorities in your life and not only make sure they are the same, but assess your behaviors and make sure they are a match to those priorities.

What are your top priorities right now?  Not your “to do” list…put that away.  I want to see your backbone here, not your wishbone!  What makes your heart skip a beat when you think about it?  What area of your life is in the most turmoil right now?  Where in your life do you often get confused and feel as if you never make the right decision?  These answers are a clue to the direction in which the Universe is pointing you.  Use your feelings as a guide.  Where are your feelings guiding you?  What feels good when you do it?  What thoughts consume your attention all day long?

Take some time to write down your top three priorities and then create balance in your life by aligning your actions to those priorities.  When your feelings drop, realize you lost power and call it back by doing something that will make you feel good again.

Know today that you deserve to have a balanced life.  It is ok to have and experience good things.  There is no need to feel guilty because you have something someone else does not.  We are all on our own journeys.  We walk the same road but we are all on different mile markers.  Some are ahead and some are behind.  Those ahead are not “better” and those behind are not “slower.”  We are at the exact mile marker we should be.  When you get lost on the road of life, pull over (rest), look at your map (your priorities), turn around if you need to (set different priorities) and get back on the road (re-engage in life -  take action).

Remember…we are all walking on the same road.  Make it a good “road trip.” 😉

Once you become aware of something that is limiting you, you then have the power to change it.

Calling back my power,


Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .

A List to Live By

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens; not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life; a positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes.  It is a catalyst…a spark that creates extraordinary results.

The most destructive habit => Worry
The greatest joy => Giving
The greatest loss => Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work => Helping others
The ugliest personality trait => Selfishness
The most endangered species => Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource => Our youth
The greatest “shot in the arm” => Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome => Fear

The most effective sleeping pill => Peace of mind
The most crippling disease => Excuses
The most powerful force in life => Love

The most dangerous pariah => Gossiper
The world’s most incredible computer => The brain
The worst thing to be without => Hope

The deadliest weapon => The tongue
The two most power-filled words => “I Can”
The greatest asset => Faith

The most worthless emotion => Self-pity
The most beautiful attire => Smile
The most prized possession => Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication => Prayer/Meditation
The most contagious spirit => Enthusiasm

The world’s greatest cross-country driver,



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