Guest blog contributor, Chris Sopa’s daughter, Natalie Sopa, 19 years old.

“Above all, don’t lose hope” 
~Pi, “Life of Pi”

When you look up at the stars, what do you see? Do simply see stars? Do you see beauty? Do they make you feel insignificant? Or do you look up at the sky, with the stars reflecting off your eyes like fire above a stagnate lake and feel possibility and hope?

Most of the time when someone looks up at the stars they don’t see the beauty or the possibilities that hold ungodly amounts of hope. They see a sky that is too large to comprehend; a large quantity of space that holds mysteries not yet known to the human race. Many feel themselves shrink back, feeling smaller and smaller by the second until they feel like an empty void of space.

Sometimes in life, things can make you feel small, unimportant, and insignificant. They can tear you apart piece by piece, ripping your soul so you feel like nothing but a deep, unexplored sea. Whether it is a divorce, a breakup, the death of a person or dream, or something as small as a deceptive lie told to you, these kinds of events can hurt you more than you would ever possibly think. The wound may heal, but most of the time there is always a scar left over on your soul. Then, once something happens that is similar to the event that created the scar, the wound is ripped back open.

Feelings like this should not be ignored. Like my Mom always says, most of the time if something keeps bothering you and ripping open a healed wound, there is a lesson that you need to learn from it. It may not always be so obvious because pain can leave such rough scars on our souls, our subconscious always remembers the pain, so; unless we do something to heal the wound to make the scar fade we will always feel reoccurring pain. We must strive past the pain and get to the source of the sorrow. You must keep digging until you get to the center of the earth. There you will find the lava that is fueling your pain.

Cooling that lava is where the peace will rise like evaporated water. As many experts say, “This is easier said than done.” The journey to peace might be more painful and rigorous than the wound itself, but the result is worth the fight.

Whether you feel like an endless space filled with stars or a deep sea filled with mystery, there is always hope for something new to be discovered. What will you discover at the end of your journey to peace?

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Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc.

I was blessed to spend the entire weekend with 30 amazing women at the 2^nd annual Goddess Conference at the Peaceful Spirit Enrichment Center owned and operated by Melanie Dunlap (an amazing “new” female).  As I sat among these fabulously gifted and beautiful women, I began to think about the similarities between all of us.  What makes us so unique?  Why do we seem “different” than the average woman?

The feminine energy is in a time of becoming empowered once again.  Women are stepping into more leadership positions, more women are becoming entrepreneurs than ever and women are changing the old paradigm of what “being a woman” means in this new age.

What constitutes this “new feminine” energy?  I decided to find out.  I watched, listened and asked several women this weekend what they thought made us all alike.  This is what I gathered about the “new feminine.”

The “new feminine” is:

• Self-aware – she watches herself constantly.  What she does, what she says, where she goes, how she reacts and picks up her patterns of behavior.  She keeps what is working and discards what is not.
• A Queen – the queen archetype knows what she wants and makes it so.  She rules her roost but with compassion and is always balanced with her King (feminine and masculine energy).
• Congruent in mind, body and spirit – she is balanced in all 3 areas and when she is off-balance, she knows it and makes the proper adjustments.
• Connected to all things – she understands that everything is connected by energy and whatever she thinks and feels affects everyone.
• Independent – most “new feminine’s” currently find themselves not in a relationship or questioning the one they are currently in.  They find peace in learning how to take care of themselves and are looking for a “soul partner’ not a date.
• Open to all types of relationships – she is also open to re-defining the paradigms around relationships.  She re-writes the rules and has relationships that honor her and her energy.  She is very comfortable in her sexuality.
• Speaks her truth – she is not afraid what others think of her and speaks her truth when necessary and needed.
• Strong – she can never be talked into something she does not want to do.
• Empowered – her reality comes from within and she is never dictated by what others say or do around her.  Her power comes from that center inside of her.
• Nurturing and Compassionate – if she could, she would wrap her arms around the whole world to protect it and take away everyone’s pain.
• Spiritual and Psychic – she is in touch with her spiritual gifts, allows guidance to flow through her and trusts the Universe to take care of her every need.
• In Love with Herself – she loves herself tremendously, loves her own company and reminds herself daily how much joy she brings to her own life and that of others.  This love flows out to all she meets.

“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.”  ~ Katharine Hepburn

To all of my “AZ Goddesses” – Love you all!

Chris

Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at www.ChrisSopa.com. Find her at Facebook.com/ChrisSopaInternational, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and Google+.

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