All of your experiences, every one, bring to the surface the deepest wounds that need to be healed.

Did you ever notice that you seem to experience the same things over and over again?  You may be in a different place and with different people, but the situation is the same.  Whether it is how you are treated in a relationship, how much money you make or maybe your career choice, you always seem to have the feeling that this has happened to you before.  These situations are usually followed by the question, “Why does this keep happening to me?”

Our life experiences are the very things for which we came here …especially the painful ones.  Pain is the signal for us to pay attention.  The more pain, the more important the lesson.  With each experience you have you are given the chance to learn the lesson that is within the experience.  As humans, we were given the ability to choose.  At any time you can choose to extract the lesson, leave the experience behind and move on or run from the pain and chose to hide from the lesson.  Each time we hide, it is guaranteed the lesson will return, each time bringing more pain to your awareness.  This is why we experience the same things over and over again in different forms.  They are our lessons disguised.

So what is the secret to moving through an experience and learning the lesson?  Pause.  Each time you find yourself in a familiar situation, pause and ask yourself, “How am I going to handle this situation this time?”  Self-awareness is key.  Watch yourself.  Notice what you do, what you say, who you chose as friends and mates.  Nothing changes if nothing changes.  Self-awareness is hard work.  Changing is sometimes painful.  We find ourselves having to release people from our lives that may have been there for a long time; changing the thoughts that we allow to run through our minds and most importantly, changing the way we behave.

Nothing you have done in your life is wrong.  Every choice has lead you to become the person you are today.  Every person you have met, especially the ones who have caused you the most pain, are your greatest teachers.  These teachers are the ones who bring the hurts that need to be healed to the surface so we can see them and choose to change.

Be willing, be open and most importantly pause.  Don’t just look at your life, look into your life.  Watch and take note of your patterns.  Patterns that need to be changed are usually followed by a negative emotion.  Negative emotions are our clue that we are out of alignment.  We have a divine birthright to experience joy.  But joy comes with a price and hard work.  We must brush off the old debris that holds us back from our authentic selves and step into who we came here to be.

Don’t be afraid.  Everything is just as it is supposed to be.  Just breathe, pray and pause.

Praying for you,


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Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc.