Note to My Unborn Self: Illusion vs. Reality

Dear Chris,

Before you head down there to your new life on Earth, I wanted to give you a heads up about a few things that will take place in the life you are about to be born into.  There are two versions, and whichever one you choose to give your attention to will be the one that is real for you.


You are born into a lower income family as the middle child and grow up in Cleveland, Ohio.  Your childhood is fairly uneventful, given you witnessed and experienced some not so wonderful things growing up which severely affect your self-esteem as an adult.

You will be bullied all through elementary school and middle school due to being smart and the “teacher’s pet” but end up “finding your own” in high school by burying yourself in your books and doing extremely well in school.  You go off to college, majoring in pre-medicine, only to end up pregnant in your senior year, unable to attend medical school.  You do finish your degree, graduate and get married the week after you graduate being 6 months pregnant.  You move to Columbus, Ohio with your new husband and proceed to have 2 daughters by the time you are 23 years old.  You enjoy being a stay-at-home Mom for a few years but somehow lose yourself in the middle of caring for everyone else and end up deathly ill by the age of 32.  You recover, start your own business and feel as if you are finally on your path, only to discover you are unhappy in your marriage and proceed to get divorced at age 38.

After your divorce, you date several men and come to find that your “radar” is broken and you seem to only attract angry, abusive men who lie, cheat and use you for either sex or money.  You then decide at age 42 to remain single for the rest of your life because it is not worth the pain of being used and hurt again.

You feel as if the only area of your life you are successful in is your business but seem to always be struggling with money due to the fact that you feel the need to “loan” everyone who is in need your money, time or sanity, leaving you with nothing left for yourself.  Your daughters grow up to be beautiful smart girls but very opposite.  Both end up doing great in school, with one going off to college and the other having to overcome a low self-esteem and addiction issue and becoming pregnant at a young age, leaving you feeling like you failed as a Mom somewhere down the road.

Due to an urge to move out west that will not seem to go away, you throw in the towel in 2012 and risk everything to move your life to Arizona.  You feel elated by this move only to return to your old home in Baltimore for a visit to continued chaos, friends who have changed and moved on and a heavy feeling of not belonging anywhere anymore.


Every event in the “Illusion” version of your life still occurs, except your perception is different.  You choose to believe that all of the events that happened to you in childhood and in your life happened for a reason.  You use those events that may have crippled someone else’s self-esteem, into events that build your own.  You see that both of your parents did the best that they could based on their situation and what happened to them in their own lives.

Although the events that occur from the ages of 8-38 are extremely difficult and trying, you pull up your boot straps and like a champ get through each one with your head held high, believing that as long as you keep moving forward and focusing on the good in life you will persevere in the end.  And even though you never end up going to medical school, you use every work and school experience you had to build an internationally successful speaking business which not only helps millions of people transform their own lives, but creates boundless abundance for yourself and family.

Your daughters end up wildly successful, following in your footsteps in using their God-given gifts and life experiences to help others persevere through challenging times in their lives.  And even though you may still feel as if your “radar” is broken with men, you continue through life confidently believing that your “knight in shining armor” is out there and one day will ride in on his white horse and be more than you ever dreamed.

You continue to live the rest of your life traveling the world with your base being in Arizona and one day realize that every event that happens in your life in the present is created by the thoughts that you allowed to race through your mind in the past.  You live the rest of your life choosing to question your thoughts, think of the things and events that make you feel good about yourself, protect your energy by being careful with whom and where you take yourself and you know deep down in your soul that when you get to the end of this movie called “Chris Sopa” that you will have no regrets and have lived the life you were born to live.

We but mirror the world.  All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body.  If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change.  As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change toward him.  This is the Divine mystery supreme.  A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness.  We need not wait to see what others do.“  ~Gandhi

Now THAT’S an awesome dream!!! 😉


Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .