Kick Me

Do you ever feel as if you must be walking around with a “kick me” sign on your back?  A BIG sign…like, one so big the Universe even sees it and says “ok, no problem!”  When this imaginary sign is on your back, nothing in your world goes right.  No matter what you do or say, ouch, another kick in the behind.

I spent the holiday week with a “kick me” sign on my back.  I have to say that I am pretty sure this past week was the worst week of my life, even worse than the one when my Dad crossed over.  There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to look in the mirror and see a shadow…that one thing you know has been there, lurking right in front of you, but you haven’t had the courage to do anything about it.  But now you know it’s time. Who said courage was easy anyway?  This past week I found my courage…but it broke my heart.

We all make mistakes.  Mistakes are how we learn our lessons.  Some mistakes affect only us, but some affect those around us as well.  Those are the ones that are the hardest.  Hardest for those who realize they made the mistake and hurt others and hard for those in the sidelines who watch and are affected and hurt by that mistake.

When we are faced with doing something that is hard, we lose our breath, can’t focus on anything, have a sudden urge to run away from it all and either want to be totally alone or around a ton of people so we do not have to face what we are certain will come up if we are left alone.  The movie, “A League of Their Own,” with Tom Hanks has a classic line I sometimes repeat to myself when life gets tough:  “If it were easy, everyone would do it.  The hard is what makes it great!”  This line reminds me that it is the hard times in our lives that make us who we are.  Those who we look up to and admire because of who they are or the life they have, have that kind of life because they made choices (hard choices) others may not have had the courage to make.

Courage is not acting without fear; it is acting in spite of fear.  When you feel lost inside because of something that has happened to you or someone you love, there is one thing and one thing only that is the cure to feeling better:  YOU.  Life is made up of hard choices and painful events.  It is not what happens to us that makes us, it is the choices we make after that “something” happens that build us into who we will become.  Tragedies, death, poor choices made by the ones we love dearly, financial hardships…all of these things are enough to break a normal human.  But, you are not just human.  You are a divine spiritual being having a human experience.  That means you are more than the physical body you can touch and the feelings you are currently feeling.  You are an essence that never dies, feeds off of joy and loves unconditionally.  Never underestimate your true divine nature.  We are all small pieces of God on earth playing a role to help move humanity forward.  No one said it would be easy.  You cannot take away other peoples lessons just to spare them pain.  Your path is the only path you can walk.  Don’t try to live your life and everyone else’s at the same time…trust me, it will only exhaust you.  Live your life the best you can and remember to take one day at a time, breathe, choose those who surround you wisely, feed your mind and body positive, nourishing “food,” and practice trust.  Trust that you knew what you were doing when you came here and trust that God has your back.

I’ll pray for you if you pray for me?


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This is my first blog post officially from Scottsdale, AZ.  I arrived at my new home yesterday afternoon at a sweltering 113 degrees!  My new home is beautiful with a scenic view of the McDowell Mountain Range as the view from my backyard.

Our road trip out here was 4 ½ days long, 38 hours and 2400 miles.  By the end of our trip, we were laughing at everything we were so slap happy.  (Thank you Eddie Fetty!)

This morning I woke up, drove my friend Donna to the airport at 4:00am and on my drive home it hit me what I had done…moved my life 3000 miles away from everything I know!  I burst into tears!  It is a most interesting sensation to not know where you are going, to not know a soul where you live and not to have your normal “comforts” around you.  When we find ourselves in times like this that is when we need to embrace the newness of life and the Divine change with which our life has been blessed.  New-ness is scary sometimes, but it is needed.  When you feel uncomfortable in your life that is when you are growing the most.  It is life letting you know that something needs to shift and that shift will take you closer to your life purpose.

New-ness is scary because we want to know for sure what the outcome will be and that we will be ok.  Learn to trust your intuition and the powers that be and know that we do not need to know the outcome…sometimes it is better not to know and more exciting!  Our choices are more pure and present moment – which is where our power lies.

This week’s focus will be on “foresight,” and having the courage to trust Divine will over personal will, learning to receive, the best use of your personal power and learning to master your mind to manifest what you want in your life.  Apatite is our power crystal this week and she reminds us that our foresight into our life is very powerful if we trust it.

Take time today to trust your gut and go with the flow.  See where life wants to take you.  Let go of the steering wheel and let the Divine drive for a bit.

(Where was the Divine the last 5 days?  I could have used a driving break!!  Lol!)

Loving my new home and not being in the car,


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