“In memory of Nancy Oberlin Bestwick and Dr. David Hawkins”
“In this interconnected universe, every improvement we make in our private world improves the world at large for everyone. We all float on the collective level of consciousness of mankind, so that any increment we add comes back to us. We all add to our common buoyancy by our efforts to benefit life. It is a scientific fact that what is good for you is good for me.” ~Dr. David Hawkins
A couple months before my Dad passed away from cancer in 2007, he said something to me I will never forget. One night as we sat in the living room of the house I grew up in, he looked over at me and said, “I hope when I die I am alone. I don’t want anyone to remember me dying…I want them to remember me living.”
There are certain points on “the journey of life” that are meant to be walked alone. Which points? We are not made privy to that information, but when the time comes, we know it. It may be after the loss of a loved one, at your own death, after a divorce, after a job loss, after recovery from an addiction or even before a significant yet unknown event is supposed to occur in your life. Regardless, being alone is mandatory. For some journeys God gives you only one seat.
Being alone is one of the biggest lessons we can learn as humans. Being alone is not easy…it is tough. You are left alone with YOU. No distractions, no one to get another opinion from, no one to tell you the “right” thing to do…no one. Feelings arise that come out of nowhere. Feelings of fear, loneliness, despair, or anxiety. Yes, at times we all enjoy being alone – self-time if you will – but being alone when you don’t necessarily want to be, now that is where true lessons are born.
To appreciate anything in life we must experience polarities. In order to know you like the company of others, you must have been alone at some time. To know happiness you must also at one time had to know sadness. The opposite of something is a part of that something – its opposite makes it whole. In order to be “whole,” we must savor each experience AND it’s opposite. A whole breath includes the inhale and the exhale…without either one, there would be no wholeness of breath.
One of the greatest illusions we have is that of individuality. According to Dr. David Hawkins in his brilliant book, “Power vs. Force,” “the illusion of individuality is the origin of all suffering – when one realizes that one IS the universe, complete and at one with all that is, forever without end, then no further suffering is possible.”
The individual that is YOU has a very unique purpose. You must have the entire experience of being human, which includes time alone, to learn, recapitulate events, reflect, pray and experience the wholeness of your soul being incarnated into this beautiful human body. If you find yourself alone now, as I do, don’t allow yourself to give into the feelings of loneliness. You are far from alone. Each moment is as it is meant to be. Savor it for what it is and allow the feelings and the experience to take you to places of this human experience you have not known before. Learn from it, love it and above all, love yourself. You are the only one that will ever always be there for you. Others come and go…you stay. Be the best you that you can possibly be and use your alone time to sharpen the blade, oil the engine and give yourself a needed tune-up. Sleep, study, read, observe, pray, meditate, walk, experience the beauty of nature, reflect, work, don’t work, sing, dance, paint, sculpt, cry, laugh, run, take a bath, do absolutely nothing.
Whatever you do, as you find yourself alone, remember…one is a whole number.
“It’s my contention that the universe not only will, but must provide you with what you conceive of. So if you complain about what is missing from your life – you will be offered experiences that match that energy.” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer
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