“One cannot weep for the entire world. It is beyond human strength. One must choose.” ~Jean Anouilh
Here is the thing about us control freaks…we worry. Worry about money, worry about our kids, worry about our friends, worry about the poor innocent ant we just accidentally stepped on and whether we are going to go to heaven now…we just worry. And if there is nothing to worry about, self-sabotage kicks in and we subconsciously create a drama so there is something to worry about. I know, it sounds sick when you actually say it out loud. But it’s true.
Why is it that we believe that by thinking and worrying about something incessantly it is going to solve the problem? It’s like we believe there is a little clock in the heavens that measures the amount of time we think about something and go over and over it in our minds and if we do that enough, Whamo!, the answer will appear and all will be good in the world again. Wrong! We are made of energy and so is everything around us. Our thoughts are a form of energy. When we think about something, whether it is a good thing or a bad thing, we are giving energy to “that thing.” Since the universe’s language is energy, it picks up the signal of what we are thinking about most (our worry) and thinks that is what we want more of, since we are thinking about it so much, so it makes it so. Worrying is a form of prayer. Prayer is simply the process of giving our thoughts to God. What thoughts have you been giving to God lately? Are they of gratitude for what you do have in your life or are they worrisome thoughts of why things are not how you want them to be? God is a kind God; at least that is my belief. Nothing happens in this world, even if you perceive it as “bad,” that is out of alignment with God’s highest plan for you. Sometimes it is those things that tear us down that eventually are the catalyst that builds us back up later.
Lately, my personal struggle has been worrying about my 20 year old daughter. She is 6 months pregnant and let’s just say “lost” at the moment. My first instinct…to worry about her. My second instinct…to jump in and “save” her by fixing it all for her so she is happy. But, what makes me think if her situation is “fixed” she would be happy? Is that true? I don’t know God’s plan for her. Only God knows that.
Let’s take Lazarus as an example. Jesus loved Lazarus like a brother and did not want him to die. When Jesus found out Lazarus was sick and dying, he did not intervene by running to Lazarus’ side, shoving raw food and vitamins down his throat and making him drink water to flush out his system…he left town as planned. He did not only leave town, he stayed away for 2 days. Was that hard for Jesus? I would guess it was agonizing. But, Jesus knew his Father had a plan for Lazarus and he did not want to interfere with that plan, even if it would make him feel better…even if it meant he had to watch his friend suffer. “Love one another as I have loved you”…that was the plan.
God never leaves our side during suffering…he and his angels are always there. We must learn to step out of the way and allow him to do his work. We need to stop playing God by thinking we know what is best for those around us. Just because it makes us feel better and would be what we would do, does not necessarily mean it is best for those we love.
Sometimes we must love from a distance, watch those we love fall and simply be the hand that comes in to help them pick up the pieces when it is all over.
Worrying never solved anything…
“Though we would love to run and catch them, we have to let the people we love stumble and fall. In this way, they can get back up, and without any nudging from us, go on to choose the best path for them into their Father’s arms.”
~Allia Zobel Nolan, “The Worrywart’s Prayer Book”
Praying a different way,
Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at www.ChrisSopa.com. Find her at Facebook.com/ChrisSopaInternational, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and Google+.