“You presume poison is bad…that such things have no purpose. Many “bad plants” contain incredible properties for healing or are necessary for some of the most magnificent wonders when combined with something else. Humans have a great capacity for declaring something good or evil, without truly knowing.” ~”The Shack” by William P. Young
Pain hurts. No doubt about it. Whether it is physical pain or emotional pain, it is still the same. Pain, as with all things, has a purpose. Imagine you cut your hand and it hurt. The “hurt” is saying to you, “Hey, pay attention to me! I need healed!” So, we grab a band-aid and Neosporin, tape ourselves up, and trust that our physical body knows what to do to heal our cut.
Now let’s make things interesting…you are in a relationship with someone and they cheat on you. Emotional OUCH! What do you do? What is this pain trying to tell us?
One amazing tid-bit I learned from Caroline Myss, who is one of my absolute favorites (If you haven’t read “Sacred Contracts” or “Anatomy of the Spirit” they are a MUST!), is that we have 2 ways we can look at things in life: Literally (from a ground-view, 3D perspective) or symbolically (the 10,000 foot above the situation view). If you look at the cheating from a 3D perspective you only see an individual who made a choice that was hurtful to you, disrespected you, and lied to you. From a symbolic perspective you “rise above” the situation and ask, “What is the Universe trying to teach me here? What could possibly be the lesson?” Maybe you have been a bit too trusting with romantic individuals in the past, maybe your partner has some unresolved self-esteem issues of their own, or maybe the “affair” was divine intervention because the relationship just wasn’t of the highest order for you and it was God’s way of “lending you a helping hand” to end it.
One thing I have learned, as hard as it may be, is that those individuals who cause us the most pain in our lives are our greatest teachers. Their 3D selves may suck on the surface due to the choices they are making, but their higher selves (that spirit part of them who is perfection) scripted to help you learn this lesson. If you want to learn forgiveness, my friends, you need to have something to forgive. Who better to do that than someone who loves you so much they are willing to play the role of “villain” for you in this lifetime to give you a chance to learn that lesson. Whether you embrace the opportunity given to you by the situation is up to you…it is always up to you how you look at something. Is it good? Is it bad? Will I be bitter or will I make myself better and stronger because of this? Until you learn the lesson you scripted to learn, you will continue to attract people and situations that are the same, giving you yet again another opportunity to learn the lesson. The rub is, the way
the Universe gets your attention is that the pain of the situation increases every time. How else will your attention be gotten…the “OUCH!…I need a band-aid and healed” attention!
Until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing, you will stay the same.
Just as you trust your physical body to heal the cut on your hand, trust the Divine to heal you and know what is best for your life.
People move in and out of our lives because the roles they play for us come to a finale. Once their roles are over, they exit the stage. If someone leaves your life, whether you are ready for them to or not, let them go. Their role in your “play” is over. It does not mean they may not play another part in your play later, it just means their work is done. Our relationships are sacred opportunities to see the Divine in others. A sacred opportunity to FORGIVE!
So back to the cheating…is that a “bad” thing? It is up to you…it is ALWAYS up to you!
God doesn’t give you the people you want; he gives you the people you NEED…to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be.
Choosing to See It All As Good,